What To Do If Your Wife Ever Cheats…Or Has Cheated…On You

WifeCheatsHere’s the first thing I’ll suggest: STOP the endlessly-looping question within your head about whether it was truly a mistake that she made that she’s really sorry about.

Many men are willing to forgive their wife for her infidelity if they can be convinced that she truly made a dumb, stupid, emotional mistake out of reaction to some stress in her life…and that she’s really, truly sorry for her mistake and will never repeat it again.

The man won’t like what his wife has done, but he can logically understand it, accept it, and move on.

The problem arises in that the man cannot become convinced in his own mind. He hashes and rehashes the whole thing over and over in his mind. He thinks of the cat getting its first taste of mouse after which that cat will always be a “mouser”. And every time he sees or thinks of his wife, he wonders…

And so, the endlessly-looping question is, “Was it a mistake or was it cat & mouse?”

Unfortunately, until time reveals the answer, you can’t really know. All you can do is be yourself and continue developing and increasing your attractiveness.

Do you realize you aren’t attractive when you continue playing a negative loop of an unpleasant past event?

Do you realize that by replaying this question, you will literally run your wife off…even if she previously viewed her infidelity as a huge mistake?

Do you realize that often, a woman will determine whether she made a mistake based on how much of a wife-seducer her husband becomes from that point forward.

She’ll either realize that her infidelity was a mistake…or she’ll decide she likes the taste of mouse better…depending upon you.

Now, let me share some good news with you… Contrary to what Hollywood would have you to believe, the overwhelming majority of women who have been unfaithful to their husband report that they really do love their husband and view their infidelity as a very bad mistake that they greatly regret and strongly wish they could go back and undo.

You can know that this is true by considering what sexologists tell us: the more connected a woman feels to her partner the more satisfying the total sexual experience is for her. Further, sexologists tell us that for a woman, an ideal sexual encounter is far more than finding someone to share an orgasm with.

What this means is that a woman who has an anonymous fling or even a fling with an acquaintance will find out that the sexual encounter was FAR LESS gratifying than she expected it to be because it’s not based on a positive, genuine, or honest connection…and therefore, the fling has little to no satisfaction.

Now, in spite of everything I’ve said so far, you may still be trying to figure out why your woman did what she did. So, let me roll one more thing by you…

In general, human beings have a critical flaw…they want external validation. And, when they are shown attention by other people, they feel validated. Therefore, they’ll do anything they can to get this attention so that they can get the validation they crave.

Women crave attention. Your wife is a woman. If your wife has cheated on you, it’s highly likely that someone gave her a level of attention and validation that was too great for her to resist.

Women want to date rock stars not because they find the man himself exciting but because they find the thought of sharing the limelight exciting.

Ask most any young girl what she wants to be and the words model, actress, or singer are highly likely to be a part of her answer.

Consider this case. Mick Jagger, the lead singer of the Rolling Stones is reputed to have had sex with virtually every woman he knows and thousands more that he doesn’t know. And here’s what I want you to realize…

All the women that Mick Jagger has had sex with didn’t have sex with him because they actually wanted sex with him. They had sex with him strictly because they wanted the attention, prestige, and validation that having sex with the lead singer of a popular and notorious band would give them.

If you were to strip Mick Jagger of his popularity and status as lead singer of the Rolling Stones, probably not even a single one of these women would have touched him with a ten-foot pole.

My point is that if your wife has cheated on you, it’s not because you’re inferior in any way. It’s because she has an internal flaw / need for validation and approval and someone, somewhere was dishing it out more so than you were.

If your wife spends lot’s of time hanging out with other people (whether work or play), it’s especially important for YOU to CREATE your own time and space where you do things that endear her to you.

So again, if you should discover or have previously discovered that your spouse has had an affair, you’ll have to decide what the best course of action for you is…but it may well be that the best course of action is to take the high road and just let it go. And, as you let it go, continue to focus on becoming a better and better wife-seducer because that’s a CONSTRUCTIVE mindset that WILL get you what you want…whether with this woman or another one.

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro of www.marriedandhappy.com

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